Monday, July 17, 2017

Googling Gamma Male

UPDATE (9/15/17)  Forgotten I'd even written this.

When I was a kid, my fourth grade teacher indulged herself in a bit of human experimentation that would doubtless get her jailed today. You are probably familiar with the premise.  She whispered a sentence in my ear.  I was then instructed to whisper that same phrase into the ear of the girl behind me.  I had reached an age where I was suddenly aware girls might have some conceivable use after all, so I was happy to do it.  The girl behind me passed on the whisper to the girl behind her and so and so on, until this sentence made it around the entire class room.

The teacher had the last kid say the sentence out loud and of course it barely resembled what I had first been told. 
With this in mind I was curious as to what the internet was doing with the phrase Gamma Male
This proved to be both sad and predictable

First the actual definition courtesy of Vox Day.  This is the from the guy who actually invented the term. 

Gamma: The introspective, the unusual, the unattractive, and all too often the bitter. Gammas are often intelligent, usually unsuccessful with women, and not uncommonly all but invisible to them, the gamma alternates between placing women on pedestals and hating the entire sex. This mostly depends upon whether an attractive woman happened to notice his existence or not that day. Too introspective for their own good, gammas are the men who obsess over individual women for extended periods of time and supply the ranks of stalkers, psycho-jealous ex-boyfriends, and the authors of excruciatingly romantic rhyming doggerel. In the unlikely event they are at the party, they are probably in the corner muttering darkly about the behavior of everyone else there... sometimes to themselves. Gammas tend to have have a worship/hate relationship with women, the current direction of which is directly tied to their present situation. However, they are sexual rejects, not social rejects.

Okay, let's see what the internet did with this.

First from Urban Dictionary:
Gamma: Male who avoids pack mentallity;(SP) also applies to females (Gamma Female)  That man (or woman) is an enigma; he/she just does his/her own thing—definetely a Gamma Male/Female

Obviously written by a somewhat self aware Gamma. His rejection of the pack mentality (which applies to his spelling). Is clearly his choice. Like any Gamma he is a secret king.

From IGN

Gamma male: you are sort of the "invisible" guy. there is nothing really spectacular about you. you are not a beta, but neither are you an alpha. your personality and presence usually blends in with the rest of the room and you're just sort of...there. people like you just fine and you usually don't have too much trouble with girls, but all the same, there is nothing particularly memorable or remarkable about you. you are not a born leader nor a inherent follower, although you can take on those tasks depending on the situation

omega: you are the polar opposite of the alpha male, but in a good way. like the alpha male you are confident, intelligent and have a sense of charisma about you, but unlike the alpha male, you are completely your own person. you do not need anyone, and you can even be emotionally distant due to your complete self-possession. you trust few people and foster even fewer intimate relationships. omegas do not care for leadership by others as they are perfectly capable of leading themselves

Again written by a Gamma although he gets the definitions wrong, as you would expect. His view of the Gamma is actually a Delta Male. i.e. the Normal Guy. He is not normal nor does he want to be because he wouldn't secretly be special that way. Again you see the Gamma self delusion on display. He is lying to himself by claiming it is his choice in rejecting the social/sexual hierarchy, rather than face the truth of the matter.  

Which is that it is the hierarchy that has rejected him. 

 He also refuses to accept the Gamma Male label so that he can claim to be an Omega. He is not. An Omega is pretty much too damaged to be more than semi-functional. This is really just a matter of "if you can't be the engine, be the caboose."

From City Data:
Delta Males: These kind of guys put off a good front of acting like they're "Alpha males" by conforming into whatever is fashionable and admired by the masses. Most of these men (if you can call them that) need a lot of assurance by society to the point of having little backbone to think for themselves. Sure, many Delta males are surrounded by "friends" and are good at get their fair share of girls by "wooing" them with some pop-culture nonsense (whether it's A&F-style gauche preppiness or poser hip-hop wannabe thuggishness), but that crowd and attention is more imperative for their self-esteem than anything else. For if you take away all of the girls from them and get these same males by themselves, a Delta male's personality completely changes and their "true self" is revealed. Many of these kind of guys are rather weak-minded, crowd-pleasing, conformists who aren't even worthy of the name "Covert Betas" and "Betas in the Closet."

The next one is our endstate.  Gamma as defined by someone completely, hilariously  lost in the Gamma delusion bubble.

Gamma Males: These kind of dudes are more or less self-reliant, self-motivated, and self-assured in their own personality that no one can change their ways. Some of these kind of males are considered loners, but this is not to case for all Gamma Males. Because of their stern personality, many people tend to write off these men as "Betas" by default because they won't conform to being whatever "Chic Alpha" trait exists during that time period. The man who's confident in his own self-worth and looks is said to go a long way with what women want. But as for recent times (I'll say since the early 2000s), most females are more impressed with being "wooed" with inane attributes, something that most Gamma males will refuse to do unless their original personality is what woos the female. These men, until recently, have had no problems getting with "American females" but recently, even these males are getting thrown in the "weak male" shelf because of their lack of conforming to the masses. Though getting women - even in today's time - isn't as much of a problem as it is for the "stereotypical Alpha Male," this is still a concern for quite a few Gamma males who were either born too recent (those in their teens and twenties) or those who live in areas where narcissism and American pop-culture rule the minds of the masses.

 "... is said to go a long way with what women want"  A most telling turn of phrase.  He clearly has no first hand experience of this strange and bizarre thing called woman.

And finally the most pathetic of all from  Tracy Forbes/Georgina Sand
No, the gamma male is in a place between alphas and betas.  He may have started out as an alpha as a kid, but then toned down those alpha antics as he grew older and became more socially conscious.   Or, he might have been a beta boy who finally “grew a pair” and started fighting back rather than shrinking away.

Whatever the case, he attracts both your primitive and rational mind. He doesn’t lead the pack, or follow it—he simply has nothing to do with the pack at all. He satisfies his own needs, but is also aware of your needs and makes a point of satisfying them, too. He’s also his own man, confident in his looks and his own self-worth. That kind of confidence is extremely sexy, and yet, with this guy, we get the sense that he’s going to stay around for as long as we want him to.

He’s Kevin Costner in Bull Durham, he’s Leonardo DiCaprio in The Great Gastby, he’s a romantic who will kiss your tears away, paint your toenails bright red, and then blow your mind in bed. He’s a nice guy who doesn’t finish last–he finishes best.

Uh Tracy, this is in fact; a Delta.  You just have an average guy there.

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