Thursday, August 21, 2014

Who Wants to Watch a Train Wreck? Thats Always Fun!

Vox at AlphaGame posted this heart wrenching tale of a White Knight who cannot figure out why his relationship with his girlfriend is ending like the Hindenburg at Lakehust.

We’d spend hours discussing anything and everything; though the conversations often turned to ethics, motivations, and stories of her past. Among the most commonly recurring were:

  • Stories about how the grief and confusion of being raised by a pathological liar taught her to make it a point to always say what she meant, and to communicate at face value.
  • Stories about an extremely manipulative ex-husband, who would do things like refuse to stop wearing the ring from his last relationship, and make her feel terrible or insane for any discomfort she expressed — though he was in fact cheating on her as he was making her feel terrible for being worried.
  • The pain of spending most of her childhood alone, as well as the injustice of being ostracized from various groups and communities in her adulthood.
  • Views on the ethics of infidelity. Which she maintained is inherently wrong even if the person who was cheated on never finds out, because (aside from willfully endangering their partner by way of increased STD risk) if the unfaithful party then has sex with their partner, they are doing so under false pretenses, and therefore without their partner’s consent. That is, sex with a partner who doesn’t know you’ve cheated on them is sex without consent.

There were other strong principled positions, sometimes brought up for their own sake, sometimes brought up in relevant situations, and almost always tied to her past, but they didn’t in any sense make up the bulk of our relationship.

Stories about how the grief and confusion of being raised by a pathological liar taught her to make it a point to always say what she meant, and to communicate at face value.

Any person man or woman who is raised by a liar will always be a liar. The apple is never going to roll away from that tree once it falls. This was her first warning.

Stories about an extremely manipulative ex-husband, who would do things like refuse to stop wearing the ring from his last relationship, and make her feel terrible or insane for any discomfort she expressed — though he was in fact cheating on her as he was making her feel terrible for being worried.

"...make her feel terrible or insane..." WARNING!! WARNING!! DANGER WILL ROBINSON!! DANGER!! A woman who says these words about herself invariable is both terrible and insane. Do not start a relationship with a woman when breaking up with her may involve you having to get a new phone number, move to a new city, change your name and possibly flee the country. Follow the heart felt advice of Lord Humongous, "Just walk away and there will be an end to the horror."

The pain of spending most of her childhood alone, as well as the injustice of being ostracized from various groups and communities in her adulthood.

Sweeeeet Jezzzuuuuzzzzz!!! Look, a girl not doing what she is told to do, by her high school peer group, might be the unicorn hunter you've been looking for. She might have real principles that she wasn't going to compromise no matter how lonely she was going to be in consequence. It might not have been her fault because you have no choice about who you go to high school with.

However, she was talking about adulthood. You choose your groups at that point. These were groups and communities that she willing entered as an adult and got chucked out of. She was telling him about the typical consequences of her actions.

This girl was pretty much wearing a tee-shirt that read;

I AM TROUBLE

WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU NOW, IS YOUR OWN DAMN FAULT

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